I am Bronco fan. I have a good friend who is a Raider fan. If I take him to a Bronco game and put a Bronco jersey on him, have I made him a Bronco fan? Not likely.
I am also a Christian. As a believer, my definition of marriage is based on Christ’s words. That marriage is a union between a man and a woman. So some of my Christian friends wonder how I can support same-sex marriage. Here’s why.
I don’t kid myself; I know that the majority of people do not believe what I believe about Christ. The non-believer is not living their life by the same set of morals that I am. We understand this, but when it comes to marriage we want them to adopt our definition of marriage. As if this will somehow make them more Christ-like. It will not, it does not. My favorite theologian, C.S. Lewis understood this; he states that:
“A great many people seem to think that if you are a Christian yourself you should try to make divorce difficult for everyone. I do not think that. At least I know I should be very angry if the Mahommedans tried to prevent the rest of us from drinking wine. My own view is that the Churches should frankly recognize that the majority of people are not Christians and, therefore, cannot be expected to live Christian lives. There ought to be two distinct kinds of marriage: one governed by the State with rules enforced on all citizens, the other governed by the Church with rules enforced by her on her own members. The distinction ought to be quite sharp, so that a man knows which couples are married in a Christian sense and which are not.”
I don’t want to put words in Lewis’s mouth. I realize he’s talking about divorce and not same sex marriage, but the point is clear. He understands that forcing the Christian definition of marriage on the non-believer is about as useful as making a Raider fan wear a Bronco jersey in hopes of making them a Bronco fan.
C.S. Lewis also warns, “— how far Christians, if they are voters or Members of Parliament, ought to try to force their views of marriage on the rest of the community by embodying them in the divorce laws.”
Again, while Lewis is talking about divorce his point is clear, we should not “force our views of marriage on the rest of the community.” It really serves no one. You aren’t making them Christian. You are simply stopping them from what I personally feel is one of the greatest things this side of Heaven.
I know some will argue that the laws have been this way for so long so why should we change them now. This “tradition” point of view really holds no value. We have changed many laws over the years to be fairer to all people. Remember slavery and not allowing women to vote? Still think that was a good thing?
In closing, I will admit that I am no theologian. I am simply a guy trying to live my life as best as I can to please Jesus. I know that Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” In fact he said there was only one commandment greater than this.